Prayer

So, I think we all have times in our lives when we stop worrying about ourselves and focus on helping the important people in our lives. Last night I got a call from a woman I love like a sister, and she was crying. She's got it rough right now...has a job that's barely worth the pay, relationship with her parents is pretty much non-existent, and now the guy that she was betting all of her chips on (which, to this day I haven't been able to figure out) is making accusations and breaking her heart. I think she made a not-great situation worse by moving in with him about a month ago, but there was no talking her out of it.

I guess I've got it pretty lucky. Sure, I haven't been dating someone for the entirety of the past four years. But at least I'm not living with some guy who can't make up his mind whether or not he trusts me. I hope that soon she sees that he isn't trying to start a new life with her...he's just allowing her to tag along on his, and that's not fair to her or her family. I know that she wants to make this work, because for some reason she thinks she really loves this guy. But let me tell you, he doesn't really love her. She can defend him and sugar-coat him to her extended family all she wants. Her parents, although they chose the most retarded-ass way of approaching it and don't deserve to have children if they think that's the way you should treat them, know that he's not right for her. Its because her parents were being so unreasonable that she didn't notice she was giving up everything that mattered to her for a guy who did nothing more than give up a little bit of his living space to her.

Never once has he tried to be a part of her life, and I wish she could see that. He's never made an attempt to meet any of her family or friends. He never visited her while she was at college, and even worse told her he didn't want to know about what she was doing at college. How can you love someone and then tell them you don't want to know about a part of their life? The answer is, you can't. If you don't want to know about or don't approve of something in your significant other's life, it isn't going to work between you in the long run.

I wish she could see that. I wish she knew that she deserved so much better than being treated like a child or even worse, a lying whore. You deserve better than that.

I regret ever letting you leave Dayton...life would have been so much better for both of us if you hadn't thought you needed to go back home to that ass.